Best Self-Confidence Tip Ever

by Gina Parris

If you can’t see this video, click here: Best Self-Confidence Tip Ever

The one thing I’m asked about more than anything else is “How can I increase my self-confidence?”
I don’t say it exactly like this in the video, but the point is: Stop being critical of everyone around you and look for what’s good about people! Two nice things will happen:
1. You’ll find what you are looking for (goodness)
2. You’ll enjoy greater self-confidence as a result.

The trick is NOT to think less of yourself. Just think of yourself less!
Check it out. Try it for a week, and let me know what you discover.
Tip – Remember what you are NOT allowed to do as you look at others, (compare how they’re “better” or “worse” than yourself.)
Self-confidence comes more easily when you stop striving for it, and just choose *gasp* love!
(Side note- if you ever find yourself the brunt of someones criticism all the time, don’t take it personally; it is just their own unhappiness talking. Find new companions!)
I’m in your corner,

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Oh yeah, sometimes it helps to just lighten up a little too!

  • http://www.hippiespelunker.com lisamariemary

    Awesome! Awesome! Awesome! Love this video – totally great way of going about it! Just simply awesome!

    • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

      Thanks Miss LMM! You made my day – especially now that I know us Southern Gals are going to connect OFFLINE soon. Oh, the power of social media. Who else will join us? (I'm really from the North, but claiming the South now.)

      • http://www.hippiespelunker.com lisamariemary

        Well, I'm not a true Southerner either – born in CO, moved to TX when I was 9mos. old and lived there until '06. So I do consider myself both Coloradoan AND Texan, but, I'm told Texas isn't the TRUE South. What ev. I am what I yam.

        I know there's another lady nearby me that you would probably have a lot to talk about with – I don't know her very well, yet – follow her on Twitter. I'll dig her up for ya! (Ew, did that sound gross or what!)

        And we'll just round us up a good 'ol group and have a lovely girls' weekend or something!

        • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

          Well Boo-yah! I'm in.

  • http://www.personal-success-factors.com steveborgman

    Gina, great video, and great message. I like this so much. In fact, I have shared this when working with teenagers who are dealing with social anxiety. Matter of fact, just this last week, I looked up Dale Carnegie's book outline on Wikipedia, and we went through his rules of reaching out to people! I also like what I read, somewhere in the blogosphere: instead of comparing self to others, look for mentors you can respect and learn from, and become a mentor to those who can learn from you.

    • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

      Steve! I was just thinking about you this weekend and the work you are doing. That is so cool about how much we change when we shift our focus. How my heart goes out to students who are dealing with social anxiety. They all have so much to offer – and really, the whole world is looking for validation!

  • http://www.bobsfriends.com/ Bob

    Gina, regarding where you say someones' criticism is their own unhappiness talking. As I read comments all over the net, it seems there are a lot of unhappy people. There are always so many negative comments even about great things. I hardly ever post comments, but may have to start posting your one simple sentence after I read a string of negative comments. Your website is great. Thanks for sharing your beliefs and experiences.

    • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

      Oh Bob, thanks so much for taking the time to share that. You are right. Sometimes I am blown away by how much “cyber silliness” people can post on the web, complete with their little expletives!
      I have to remind myself that sometimes hurting people try to hurt people. I hope you'll subscribe to this blog and visit often. I aim to make it an honest uplifting place.

  • http://www.bobsfriends.com/ Bob

    Gina, regarding where you say someones' criticism is their own unhappiness talking. As I read comments all over the net, it seems there are a lot of unhappy people. There are always so many negative comments even about great things. I hardly ever post comments, but may have to start posting your one simple sentence after I read a string of negative comments. Your website is great. Thanks for sharing your beliefs and experiences.

  • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

    Oh Bob, thanks so much for taking the time to share that. You are right. Sometimes I am blown away by how much “cyber silliness” people can post on the web, complete with their little expletives!
    I have to remind myself that sometimes hurting people try to hurt people. I hope you'll subscribe to this blog and visit often. I aim to make it an honest uplifting place.

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