Reach Your Full Potential – Joyfully!

Warning: this is not my typical kind of post…

Every where we look it seems that sex scandals rock the news. Today it’s Penn State and their legendary football coach Joe Paterno. How sad.

photo via the Huffington Post

You know I love the world of sports and sports performance. I spend a lot of energy now using sports psychology techniques to help people heal sexually. Perhaps I’ve never answered the question to my followers of, “Why?”

Watching the Joe Paterno drama unfold on the internet and the brief moments that I turn on the TV has me stirred to answer that question and make a point.

It MUST become too dangerous to have sex with children or to cover up for those who do. In staying silent about what he knew, Joe Paterno was wrong, and should indeed be dismissed from his seat of glory. Of course he would do things differently if he could. He is not a monster. It’s just that the issue is bigger than it seemed.

The reason I have poured myself into sex & relationship issues, is because my eyes were opened a few years ago to the prevalence of child sex trafficking that happens right here in our own country. In every American city, predators know just where to go to pay for sex with a child. This does not count all the other ways that predators get their sick “fix.” The average child molester will abuse more than 350 victims during his lifetime. Three hundred and fifty – innocent lives crushed! The average age of a child victim – eleven years old.

When the influence of such sickness rears its head on our top universities, and athletic programs, is it right to turn our heads just because football victories may be on the line? Surely not. The thought should nauseate us.

This is a hideous multi-billion dollar criminal industry and frankly, I can’t bring myself to look at it too closely.

That’s why in 2010, I teamed up with Stop Child Trafficking Now, the only organization that infiltrates, investigates and brings air-tight cases to law enforcement to collapse wicked trafficking rings. They employ retired Navy Seals who have dedicated the rest of their lives to use their amazing reconnaissance skills for justice. They work to make it too dangerous to exploit a child.

For my part, I finally built Winning At Romance so I could create something beautiful—healthy, sexy love lives—and use the funds to help stop something so hideous.

So far, I’ve only been able to give in the thousands to this organization, but my goal is six figures.

This is what drives me:

-An indignation over evil.

-The knowledge that the love inside my home is the kind of love craved everywhere.

-The conviction that together, we can truly change the world.

For this I will risk being misunderstood. I will endure ugly emails from those who don’t agree with my message or my methods. I’ll talk about sex on every radio & TV show that lets me, and I will continue to believe that Love is greater than evil, Healing is greater than brokenness, and Light will triumph over darkness. I know The Redeemer lives and relationships can be transformed.

So why else do I talk so much about stuff that no one else will touch? Because giving real, honest answers to people’s real honest pain is the only way I know to do my part.

Do I still offer regular Peak Performance coaching? ABSOLUTELY – and I still LOVE it. I just speak to more areas of a person’s performance now.

I know what compels me. My prayer for you is that you will know what compels you—and you will live in integrity to your calling. And of course, I hope you will join me in this cause to reclaim pure love in a world gone mad.

I believe in you!

Gina

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I stumbled upon this “love quote” from Lady Gaga recently:

“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.”

Aaaah words from a Rock Star, “…remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.”

Lady Gaga was a child prodigy when it comes to music but to love, I’m not so sure. The problem is…

Lady G, gives us a false dichotomy – choose either love or a career. She relates choosing love to “following a man” instead of your dreams.

Hmmm. That can indeed be painful. I chose to follow my husband’s career all over the world. Some years, I got into a pity party, but that sure doesn’t mean that I have not pursued my dreams. Instead having a family and having a global influence was always a big part of my dream.

Still, I’m not sure how crazy I am at the thought that love means choosing to “follow” a man. I think it means choosing to do life together.

Is it true that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore?

Perhaps. Although in the case of someone like Lady Gaga, or Michael Jackson, or Jesus, history shows that the masses of fans can quickly turn into haters.

It’s more likely however, that we will wake up and say to our career, “I don’t love you anymore.” Sometimes, even when we appear very “successful.”

In the end we find out that whether we are seeking happiness from a person or from a career, neither one can truly satisfy. Those qualities we are all aching for are not met from the outside.

A study at Southern Methodist University revealed that ultimately everybody wants the same things in life. No matter what external goals people pursue, it seems what they really want is the feeling that those things will hopefully provide. Perhaps the number one desire of the heart seems to be a certain amount of wealth, a certain kind of relationship or even a certain level of health.

Unfortunately if that “certain” thing is attained, the realization is that it fails to satisfy. Ask Tom Brady, football sensation with his superbowl rings and supermodel wife. In a 60 minutes interview he admitted with honest puzzlement, “I get everything I’ve ever wanted and feel like, is this all there is?”

Those people who are the happiest in life and love and even sport and career have an interesting perspective. They found the happiness first. The external achievements, the fulfillments of their dreams, came as a result of the hard work they took in faith and certainty.

On the bright side, that is the beauty of happiness. It can be savored right this moment without one single external thing changing.

I have no guarantees that my career will love me tomorrow – or that I will love it. I do know that I am committed to the people I’m called to serve, and the God who called me. I also know that as long as its up to me, I’ll do so with that husband of mine by my side. That is my dream, and I get to live it right now.

Why am I so committed to my marriage? I’m not sure. Maybe because it’s not a Bad Romance.

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Kristan came home from kindergarten one day and looked for her big brother Jordan, who was already an athlete in the 3^nd grade.

In her “Elmer Fudd” accent she expressed her dismay.

“Jowden, we played this game in P.E. today where they roll a ball to us and we’re ‘upposed to kick it!”

“You mean kickball?”

“Yeah, kickball,” she agreed. “But ‘cept  I couldn’t kick the ball!”

“Aw come on,” said the 8 year old, “Let’s go in the back yard and I’ll show you how.”

Fast forward 11 years.

As I write this, Kristan is the captain of her high school volleyball team, and she is playing a tournament in the town where Jordan goes to college.

“Please bring your whole baseball team to cheer for us!” She begged him.

I had to laugh.

Two thoughts crossed my mind:

1. Where in the WORLD did the years go?

2. Who would have guessed Kristan-the-bookworm would also become an athlete?

The thing is, she found HER game.

Some of us go our whole lives feeling like we are not athletic enough, talented enough, smart enough, or gifted enough to excel in anything.

How tragic.

The truth is, those who become champions have:

1.kept trying new things until they found what they love

and

2. They refused to quit when it got hard.

Today I hope you will cherish each moment of life, as the time goes by so quickly.

Also when you find your game – give it all you’ve got.

It’s never too late to find that thing that helps you express your strengths, challenge your weaknesses and grow up a little more.

It reminds me of the movie, The Legend of Baggar Vance, where Will Smith plays a simple but mysterious golf guru who appears to coach a down- on- his- game golfer,  back to greatness.

“You ain’t alone” he says,

“I’m right here with ya. I’ve been here all along. Now play the game, your game – the one that only you was meant to play -the one that was given to you when you came into this world. You ready?”

Your game has been here all along, waiting for you to claim it!

Keep playing to win.

I’m in your corner,

Gina

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“Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” By..Steve Jobs

How often do we set out to follow our heart, only to get cold feet?

We dream a dream, set a goal, make a plan. And then we stop.

We let ourselves shrink back because of the opinions of others. Worse yet, we somehow hold back because of what we think will be the opinions of others.

We tell ourselves, “They’ll laugh at me. They wouldn’t like me if they knew the real me. They won’t like my idea. Who am I to dream such a dream? Who am I to be a leader?”

Well, who are you not to?

The truth is, you and I will never be everything to everybody.
Or in the words of Brandi Snyder,

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”

That person matters enough for you to be the real you, the you that trusts your heart and intuition, as Steve Jobs told us to do.

As we mourn the death of a visionary genius, we are stirred to follow our heart.

Take courage today.

Follow your heart.

Take courage today.

Follow your intuition.

Take time to get quiet and ask yourself this question:

If I knew I was going to die in 24 hours, what would be my 3 biggest regrets?

Then, starting right now – remove the regret. Get working on the most immediate goals. Take courage and do it.

Follow your heart and intuition today – not tomorrow. As you do you are becoming the person you were meant to be.

Everything else, is secondary.

August is “National Romance Awareness Month,” so in the spirit of Winning at Home, I have four tips to help you Rekindle the Romance.

Lighten Up and Laugh!

Getting all stressed-out kills the romance! Research proves
that couples that laugh together have more satisfying love lives, because laughter helps reduce stress and creates bonding. So look for some humor in life and love.

2. List Your Lover’s GOOD qualities

When our relationship gets stressed, we tend to focus on everything
our mate is doing badly! So write the list of all the things you’ve ever loved about
your lover and keep that list where you’ll see it.
Better yet – share the list with your loved one – by text, email or any way at all.

3. Learn Something New Together

Learning something new together lets you see your partner in a new light,
and that can be very arousing. So it could be a one night cooking class, or some
ballroom dancing lessons or how to shoot firearms!

4 Light Some Candles – even if you’re just eating fast food.

This tip is especially helpful for the gentlemen who sometimes
forget that they need to woo their woman throughout the day! So just the fact
that you are deliberately setting a mood goes a long way to kindling some romance.
Remember that romance is what makes a relationship feel special. If you have a special romance tip, feel free to share it below.

Check it Out:

Can you really “Text the Romance Back?”

I was going to teach you how to really use your cell phone to create some romance (since it is one of my FAVORITE ways my husband flirts with me)  but this guy Michael did a better job explaining it all than I could. In some ways his video drives me nuts, but the product is actually quite helpful. What do you think of his message?

Text the Romance Back

Until next time, keep playing to win and I’ll be here in your corner!

Gina

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