Millard was a guy who knew how to make money. While he was still in college he started a marketing company. He was a millionaire by the time he was 29 and his young wife had everything, or so he thought.
In Millard’s words, “I ensconsed my wife, Linda in a giant ranch, but I was never there for her. I was too busy building my business.”
It was true. Linda was miserable. She had everything she wanted except her husband’s attention. Even when he was home he was mentally absent. One day, she bravely let him know how she felt. She made it clear that she couldn’t love a man who was never around. He vowed to change, but he changed nothing.
A year later, Linda finally got away to New York. She left the kids with Millard. Amid the turmoil, as he tucked his little boy into bed, the child looked at his father and said, “Daddy, I’m glad you’re here.” Somehow it melted Millard’s heart. He flew to New York to see his wife in pursuit of reconciliation.
She told him of her years of pain and heartache.
In response, Millard got committed to his marriage.
He gave away most of his money, focused on his family and ended up founding Habitat for Humanity.
Before he died, the charity he and his wife founded built more than a million homes for people who could never afford such a dream. He found his purpose.
This Valentine’s Day, no one is telling you to give away all your material possessions, but it would be a great time to get in touch with what really matters.
Do you have a spouse? Put your marriage first, until the steps to a healthy marriage become a habit. You will change not only your own lives but those of the people you influence.
Just as you have a purpose on this earth, so does your marriage! Your family has a unique DNA, a purpose that is greater than what you can accomplish as an individual.
Millard Fuller realized that outward success is meaningless when the home life lacks love, connection and intimacy. On the other hand, when the marriage was thriving, the legacy he left exceeded anything he had dreamed up in his business-only years.
Put love first this week. It will drive out the fears that make you play small.
I believe in you!