Category — goal achievement

Recently week I read a book about a marvelous judge named Maxx Rosenn, of the US Court of Appeals, Third Circuit. The tribute was written by one of his protégé’s, Dr. Mollie Marti, who is one of my mentors. The book was a masterful look at mentorship, excellence, and leaving a legacy.

As I read, I found myself captivated by a man who was so important, so busy and yet who seemed to move slowly, deliberately and with incredible productivity. Though physically slight, he was truly a man of stature.

One thing Mollie notes about her mentor is that he was a “master at the art of rejuvenation.”

What a lovely phrase.

It got me thinking about the way it’s easy to rush here and there and miss the beauty of life. How sad to miss a chance to be rejuvenated.

It seems we have a chance right now. So, let’s Rejuvenate, shall we?

What does that even mean? Re-ju-ven-ate: Verb: To make young again.

Here’s how to start:

1. Laugh out loud
   It’s been said that the average child laughs 400 times a day while the average adult laughs almost never! Look for the funny side of things, and let yourself laugh. There’s a reason the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to “such as these.”
2. Slow Down
   Try breathing slowly for a few moments and focus on feeling your body relax. Where ever you are right now – it’s a perfect place to be, on the inside. Stop and smell the roses.
3. Become Present
   Tune in to everything that you can glean right this moment through your senses. What can you see that is lovely? What sounds do you hear when you listen closely? Are there any fragrances in the air? What about taste and touch? Find delight through your senses.
4. Give Thanks
   The healthiest emotion you can cultivate is thankfulness. As you laugh, slow down and become present you will find yourself giving thanks. As you do, you open your life to so much more of the good things you desire.

That will make you age backwards! That is when you’ve mastered the art of rejuvenation.

Warning: this is not my typical kind of post…

Every where we look it seems that sex scandals rock the news. Today it’s Penn State and their legendary football coach Joe Paterno. How sad.

You know I love the world of sports and sports performance. I spend a lot of energy now using sports psychology techniques to help people heal sexually. Perhaps I’ve never answered the question to my followers of, “Why?”

Watching the Joe Paterno drama unfold on the internet and the brief moments that I turn on the TV has me stirred to answer that question and make a point.

It MUST become too dangerous to have sex with children or to cover up for those who do. In staying silent about what he knew, Joe Paterno was wrong, and should indeed be dismissed from his seat of glory. Of course he would do things differently if he could. He is not a monster. It’s just that the issue is bigger than it seemed.

The reason I have poured myself into sex & relationship issues, is because my eyes were opened a few years ago to the prevalence of child sex trafficking that happens right here in our own country. In every American city, predators know just where to go to pay for sex with a child. This does not count all the other ways that predators get their sick “fix.” The average child molester will abuse more than 350 victims during his lifetime. Three hundred and fifty – innocent lives crushed! The average age of a child victim – eleven years old.

When the influence of such sickness rears its head on our top universities, and athletic programs, is it right to turn our heads just because football victories may be on the line? Surely not. The thought should nauseate us.

 

 

This is a hideous multi-billion dollar criminal industry and frankly, I can’t bring myself to look at it too closely.

That’s why in 2010, I teamed up with Stop Child Trafficking Now, the only organization that infiltrates, investigates and brings air-tight cases to law enforcement to collapse wicked trafficking rings. They employ retired Navy Seals who have dedicated the rest of their lives to use their amazing reconnaissance skills for justice. They work to make it too dangerous to exploit a child.

For my part, I finally built Winning At Romance so I could create something beautiful—healthy, sexy love lives—and use the funds to help stop something so hideous.

So far, I’ve only been able to give in the thousands to this organization, but my goal is six figures.

This is what drives me:

-An indignation over evil.

-The knowledge that the love inside my home is the kind of love craved everywhere.

-The conviction that together, we can truly change the world.

For this I will risk being misunderstood. I will endure ugly emails from those who don’t agree with my message or my methods. I’ll talk about sex on every radio & TV show that lets me, and I will continue to believe that Love is greater than evil, Healing is greater than brokenness, and Light will triumph over darkness. I know The Redeemer lives and relationships can be transformed.

So why else do I talk so much about stuff that no one else will touch? Because giving real, honest answers to people’s real honest pain is the only way I know to do my part.

Do I still offer regular Peak Performance coaching? ABSOLUTELY – and I still LOVE it. I just speak to more areas of a person’s performance now.

I know what compels me. My prayer for you is that you will know what compels you—and you will live in integrity to your calling. And of course, I hope you will join me in this cause to reclaim pure love in a world gone mad.

I believe in you!

 

 

 

Gina

P.S. If you would like to join me, here’s what to do:

Please go to my facebook page, hit “like” and fill in the form on the welcome page for regular updates. And then tell three friends to do the same.

www.facebook.com/WinningAtRomance

 

 

I stumbled upon this “love quote” from Lady Gaga recently:

“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.”

Aaaah words from a Rock Star, “…remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.”

Lady Gaga was a child prodigy when it comes to music but to love, I’m not so sure. The problem is…

Lady G, gives us a false dichotomy – choose either love or a career. She relates choosing love to “following a man” instead of your dreams.

Hmmm. That can indeed be painful. I chose to follow my husband’s career all over the world. Some years, I got into a pity party, but that sure doesn’t mean that I have not pursued my dreams. Instead having a family and having a global influence was always a big part of my dream.

Still, I’m not sure how crazy I am at the thought that love means choosing to “follow” a man. I think it means choosing to do life together.

Is it true that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore?

Perhaps. Although in the case of someone like Lady Gaga, or Michael Jackson, or Jesus, history shows that the masses of fans can quickly turn into haters.

It’s more likely however, that we will wake up and say to our career, “I don’t love you anymore.” Sometimes, even when we appear very “successful.”

In the end we find out that whether we are seeking happiness from a person or from a career, neither one can truly satisfy. Those qualities we are all aching for are not met from the outside.

A study at Southern Methodist University revealed that ultimately everybody wants the same things in life. No matter what external goals people pursue, it seems what they really want is the feeling that those things will hopefully provide. Perhaps the number one desire of the heart seems to be a certain amount of wealth, a certain kind of relationship or even a certain level of health.

Unfortunately if that “certain” thing is attained, the realization is that it fails to satisfy. Ask Tom Brady, football sensation with his superbowl rings and supermodel wife. In a 60 minutes interview he admitted with honest puzzlement, “I get everything I’ve ever wanted and feel like, is this all there is?”

Those people who are the happiest in life and love and even sport and career have an interesting perspective. They found the happiness first. The external achievements, the fulfillments of their dreams, came as a result of the hard work they took in faith and certainty.

On the bright side, that is the beauty of happiness. It can be savored right this moment without one single external thing changing.

I have no guarantees that my career will love me tomorrow – or that I will love it. I do know that I am committed to the people I’m called to serve, and the God who called me. I also know that as long as its up to me, I’ll do so with that husband of mine by my side. That is my dream, and I get to live it right now.

Why am I so committed to my marriage? I’m not sure. Maybe because it’s not a Bad Romance.

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“Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” By..Steve Jobs

How often do we set out to follow our heart, only to get cold feet?

We dream a dream, set a goal, make a plan. And then we stop.

We let ourselves shrink back because of the opinions of others. Worse yet, we somehow hold back because of what we think will be the opinions of others.

We tell ourselves, “They’ll laugh at me. They wouldn’t like me if they knew the real me. They won’t like my idea. Who am I to dream such a dream? Who am I to be a leader?”

Well, who are you not to?

The truth is, you and I will never be everything to everybody.
Or in the words of Brandi Snyder,

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”

That person matters enough for you to be the real you, the you that trusts your heart and intuition, as Steve Jobs told us to do.

As we mourn the death of a visionary genius, we are stirred to follow our heart.

Take courage today.

Follow your heart.

Take courage today.

Follow your intuition.

Take time to get quiet and ask yourself this question:

If I knew I was going to die in 24 hours, what would be my 3 biggest regrets?

Then, starting right now – remove the regret. Get working on the most immediate goals. Take courage and do it.

Follow your heart and intuition today – not tomorrow. As you do you are becoming the person you were meant to be.

Everything else, is secondary.

In the field of peak performance, I think most people understand that if we can truly believe something, we can see it come to pass. There is no power greater than the power of belief. Still, so often many of us struggle beneath our potential, wondering why we miss the mark. Why do our goals fail to materialize? Why do we get frustrated?

What is belief anyway? Belief is being persuaded that something is going to come to pass. If it is belief in something good, we call it faith. If it is belief in something bad, we call it fear. If you have a mixture or a double mind about it, you are in doubt. (notice they start with the same prefix.)  Doubt is the master key to staying stuck!  That's why so much of my work with people focuses on eliminating their internal conflicts.

What if we could glean some lessons from the Father of our faith, Abraham? If we read the Bible in Romans 4, some of his secrets are summed up. How did he have Isaac and give birth to a whole nation when he and his wife were old and sterile?

1. Face the Facts – but don't be moved by them

Hey, there is no condemnation in starting right where you are. "Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead, since he was a hundred years old and Sarah's womb was also dead."

Ever felt like your dreams were dead, your business was dead, your career was dead? Abraham and Sarah had a dream of this child for decades before they got into alignment with the promise and gave birth. And there is a magical word: promise.

2. Trust in the promise and The Promiser

"Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being FULLY PERSUADED that God had power to do what he had promised."

It is difficult to muster up a ton of faith and confidence separate from a promise from God. I know people seem to do it, but I can't. I don't trust any other source of information. However, once I see a promise in the Word and God stirs it up in my heart, it is a DONE deal. That's how come I have a big long list of miracles that I've witnessed written down in the back of my Bible. Remarkably, when I get into stretches of ignoring the Word, my faith tank gets pretty empty, and I flounder in my own strength.  Faith comes by hearing and hearing. Sometimes I just have to start with a general promise like saying that I am a child of God so I am led by the Spirit of God. Then I start to receive leading and clarity.
Speaking of "saying…"

3. Speak in alignment with life

We're told that Abraham is our father "in the sight of God who GIVES LIFE TO THE DEAD AND CALLS THINGS THAT ARE NOT AS THOUGH THEY WERE."

We talk about this all the time in sports performance: say it, say it, say it. We know how important it is to speak positively, even in the face of contradiction. Did you know God himself is the One who demonstrated that first? He called Abraham a father of many nations, while he was childless and good as dead. He called Jacob a "Prince with God" when people only called him a deceiver He called Gideon a mighty warrior when he was hiding out in a winepress, he called Simon a Rock or "Peter" when he had been as flakey as a reed.  He has a name for you too. It would be good to learn to see yourself the way God does, and call yourself that. For one thing, he calls you "more than a conqueror."  It's hard to be a loser when you have "conqueror" emblazened on your heart.

I've heard that the secret to growing in belief is to feed your faith and starve your doubts. Personally I believe in addressing and acknowledging your doubts and choosing to clear them out on purpose.  Still the end result is the same. You are single-minded, victorious, and connected to the Ultimate Warrior.

Thank you for believing in your self. Until next time keep playing hard and enjoy your game!

I'm in your corner,

 

Gina